WHO WILL CRY WHEN YOU DIE?

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A typical Nigerian man, who has a bit of money to throw around will usually marry more than one wife and several girl friends. That saying about sowing wild oats is one thing the Nigerian men do not take lightly.

They have unbridled sexual relationships and end up having children strewn all over the place. I do not have a problem with a man doing sperm donor service to the universe, where I get concerned is the issue of taking responsibility for this mess they end up creating.

Some men will accept some of the kids just because the mother chose to show that no one has monopoly of craze, because knowing a typical man it is usually stories that touch when pregnancy enter the situation.

Some children have never, will never meet their fathers because those son of a gun bailed on their responsibilities . Recently I heard the gist of a supposedly very rich man who married a 2nd wife but could not gather the ''liver'' to tell his wife. He had to start sending emissaries to madam to beg her. So wait, you are not even man enough to cheat, why cheat? Does it even make sense?

I am always amazed and angry when I hear a polygamist say "my children are so united" really?
Polygamy that teaches you how to be a schemer? A place where if your half sister stays too much outside, your mum will say they have inhaled all the oxygen available You and your siblings now have to expand your nostrils, get extra nostrils or breathe air through your anus but just get more oxygen than the people who just left the yard.

How a sane man will believe that another woman will love someone else's child more than her own or the way she loves her own...i dun gerrit. But these daddies believe or they choose to believe it is what is happening in their own homes.

Polygamy teaches you how to be mean and self centered effortlessly because victory doesn't come to the weak. It is always a function who can grab the most. Who can scheme the best.

You will see a man that is quarter to checking out of this world, trying hard to bring his family together. Family that scattered since 1906, you think your last minute emotional drama will bring back lost love?

Every one becomes emotionally unattached at some point after fighting for so long. Fight for attention, love, money, property, whatever is in the works.

In your old age, you will be alone.. cos you are not everybody's cup of tea individually. Some can't even wait for you to go..

What are you doing to ensure that you leave a great legacy, good memories for your loved ones?

Ask yourself: Who will cry when I die? Will I even rest in peace?

Think twice before you sow the oats.

Think!

Shade.

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