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The One About Hemorrhoids

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 Let me start by saying something important: nobody warns you about adulthood properly. It Started Innocently. Everything was normal. I woke up, drank my tea, minded my business like a responsible citizen. Around midday, I felt pressed and off to the loo I went to do a number two. Five minutes after, my life changed. Chaos. The Moment of Realization Let me tell you something: when hemorrhoids arrive, they do not knock politely . They enter like an uninvited relative during Christmas. Suddenly sitting down is no longer an activity. It becomes a negotiation with destiny . I sat down. My body said: “Excuse me, who authorized this?” I stood up. My body said: “Where do you think you're going? ” At that point I realized this pain is not joking with me. The Walk of Suffering Let me talk about walking. Normally, walking is simple. Left leg and right leg abi? But when hemorrhoids flare up, you start walking like someone that is transporting fragile eggs between your bu...
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I Hacked It...... How To Be Happy On A Saturday.

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  Hey everyone, It’s been over a year since I last wrote here. Today is Saturday, and for the first time in a long while, I feel truly happy. My sister passed away on a Saturday, and ever since that heartbreaking day, Saturdays became something I dreaded. Since September 23, 2023, I’ve found myself staying awake through Friday nights, carrying the weight of those memories into each Saturday. But then, I started filling my Saturday mornings with praise and worship. Some days, the tears still come. I wrestle with questions about God’s love and mercy. Yet, over time, something shifted. I began remembering my sister without breaking down. Sometimes, I even imagine conversations with her, hearing exactly how she would have responded, and I find myself laughing out loud. I miss my sister, I miss her laugh, I miss having her here. I have my Saturdays BACK!!! Today, I braved the cold to go look for yam. People of God, the joy in my heart after eating boiled yam and egg sauce is the ginger ...
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In Loving Memory.....

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  Today makes it exactly 40 days since you left us on this side.  It has not been easy, some days are good and we laugh through the pain.  Some days are horrible and we cry all through but even in the tears we hear you, we see you and we feel your presence. Olajumoke Oyeronke Abosede , my hardworking sister.   The day you were born I became a big sister, and the day you left you became my guardian angel. You wore so many hats with grace.  Never one to show pain except when absolutely out of your power.  Of all the special gifts in life however great or small, to have you as our sister was one of the best gifts. And deep in our hearts we keep your thoughts to always love and cherish and never to be forgotten. When someone you love becomes a memory, that memory becomes a treasure.  Thank you for the life we shared little sis. You are loved and will be missed forever. Fare thee well my beloved, until resurrection day.  Until then...this is In Lo...
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Hello!!! Anybody Home?

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 I have not been here in a while. Life moved me in different ways. In the last one year, I have moved miles away from home, left a job I had done for 14 years. I have tried to maintain a social life, drink enough water, exercise (Yinmu). But above all, I am doing everything possible to stay positive in the pursuit of happiness which for some odd reasons seems to be a never ending cycle.  Here is to writing more in  the remaining months of 2023, sharing my stories and hoping it will help someone.  I will write again.
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Dear Women, leave so that you can live.

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 Dear Women, There is no award in heaven , maybe in hell anyways for the woman who suffered the most to keep her marraige.  Do not stay in an abusive relationship just to keep up apperances. Do not seek counsel from Pastors and Imams as their default solution to your problems is to PRAY. There is a place for prayer, and there is a place for common sense. Do not keep quiet when you are a victim of domestic, mental, emotional and anyhow violence. Do not allow people to guilt trip or shame you in to thinking that divorce is never a way out. Do not give people the power to decide what is BEST for YOU. Do not allow yourself to be bullied into silence. Any man of God, asking you to pray and suck it all in has plans to collect offering on the day of your funeral. No, your friends can't take your place in the lives of your children. Leave, so that you can live. Things end, marriages end, people leave and guess what?? Life goes on!! "The greatest lesson of life is that you are responsi...
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LRT.....This One Is For You Guys!!!!!

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 The year will roll by in a few hours. Hopes, dreams, aspirations, desires and wants. Some gotten, others dashed. Tears, laughter, joy all in one year. This year, I had my fair share of the ups and downs. From the fear of almost losing my only brother to being in a car accident with all the members of my family and no scratch on us but a badly damaged vehicle.  To being suicidal and wanting to end it all.... To rejections here and there on different applications. But through it all one thing has been very constant for me : MY TRIBE.  The people God surrounded me with. The ones that stood like a rock. The ones that did everything to put me back on my feet and make me smile.  To the ones who will send food to me as they know food is my love language.  The ones who constantly support this blog with their views and comments. To the one who paid for the domain name and has been paying subscription fees yearly. Thank you!! Some of you guys are angels in disguise. ...
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Stay Cool, Calm and Sweet Smelling.

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Lagos is HOT!!!! It is almost December and no sign of harmattan. Not like harmattan is like winter but at least the weather is usually bearable despite the dust and it is our welcome to the Christmas mode feeling.  I was showering for the fourth time today when I had this light bulb moment to write about how to cope with this season without being a community nuisance. Imagine having to deal with all the problems on Nigeria on one hand and not able to swallow spit because your colleague smells like a fish tank. It is not nice. 1. Shower daily, twice if possible and ensure you use your sponge and soap all the time. See, when you come in from the hot sun, do not just get into the shower and rinse your body with water only. Attack those germs, use soap. You will feel better. Trust me.  2. Do not be a stranger to deodorants and antiperspirants in this season please. Put some on in the morning, if possible have a spare in your bag or the safe in your car. Deodorants don't kill, they...
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LAGOS.....NIGERIA.....REFLECTIONS.

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It is day 4 now and death toll at the collapsed building in Ikoyi is now 36.  Some bodies will never be found under that rubble.  Some may be decomposing before the rescue team gets to them, Some may not have died immediately, but the strain and heat from being under that place for days is enough to kill. Oh, what a terrible way to go.  Day by day, we feel the wrath of what cutting corners, incompetence and corruption can cost a country. Sad that some people have to pay the price of someone else's greed, mistake or nonchalant attitude. For every time you look away in the face of evil.... For every time you know what is right but you do what is wrong.... For every time you take bribe to allow an illegal structure stand..... For every time you take money to allow a quack hospital continue to operate..... For every time you import fake drugs into the country..... For every time you manufacture/ produce drugs that are not up to required health standard.. For every time you en...
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