FOLA'S HAVEN

 So, I started exercising intentionally in the last few weeks,because I woke up one day and I could not move my body. Why do I feel so heavy? I could not even climb stairs without panting heavily.  I decided to take a stroll to the neighbourhood pharmacy and get my multivitamins. I still can't figure out why I decided to check my weight. Mistake: because that scale LIED. How is someone with my size and height  78.5kg.  I don't like how my body is at the moment. Slightly bulging tummy (that is if you consider a typical 4 months pregnancy bulge as slight).  Moving on....people will tell you that you should LOVE your body, but I have news IT IS NOT THAT EASY. I just want to have a picture perfect body. I want to be able to wear dresses and crop tops. I want to be able to fit into my size 12 skinny jeans and skirts. I miss tucking shirts into pants and skirts.  I don't want to be turning my face and looking for my perfect angle because my cheeks are puffy. I ju...

 ADULTERY: Adultery is sexual relations in which at least one participant is married to someone else and it is considered objectionable on social, religious,moral or legal grounds. We live in a world that I am going to refer to as an animal kingdom for the purpose of this post. And as we all know all animals are equal but some are more equal than others. Some of the reasons people commit adultery varies from unhappiness to dissatisfaction with the marriage either emotionally or sexually. Marriage is hard work and without equal contribution or mutual nurturing couples usually grow apart. Scenario A A married man cheating on his wife for years, he gets caught or otherwise found out. He blames the wife for being  nonchalant to his needs and emotions. Blames the traffic for keeping him out, so he has to stop by the other woman's house to pass time. Blames his crazy work hours with the same woman he has been cheating with.  Note that in all of this, he doesn't blame his philan...

I have had what ''real writers" call writers block for a long time now. I did not have a clue what to blog about. I had a billion and one thought going on in my head at the same time, couldn't piece them together so I just let the blog rest. So, anyway I resumed work today after a 5 day break and yet nothing to write about. Got a call from my younger son who wanted a replacement toy car so I had to stop by the store on my way home. It was on the queue that the stench that rebooted my  writer's block inspired me. The beautiful lady right behind me on the queue....the stench, so gross! For a minute, I held my breath because I was in a state of shock. This smell can not be coming from behind me!!! After it dawned on me that the smell was actually coming from this suspected source, I thought about that phrase " Your Attitude Stinks". This is a terrible thing to say to anyone if we are being sincere but some people do have terrible behaviour.  5 Signs That Sho...

Guys, I woke up to a new set of dentition!!! Like, I am not even joking. I was born with  gap tooth, I have lived with that for as long as I've have had teeth. So, this morning, while brushing I noticed my lower teeth now has another gap. Which means I have gap at the top and bottom, this happened over night. I was confused for a minute because I was not sure I was looking at my face. Ran into the room to show the husband, I am sure he was trying very hard not to laugh. He did say it is caused by old age, after a few minutes (very helpful). I spent the last 1 hour on google, trying to figure out what causes a sudden change in dentition . '' adult teeth do and can shift over time, whether or not you had braces as a teenager or child. So yes, teeth move overnight, though the change might be imperceptible at first. Regardless of dental decay or bad habits, our teeth usually shift over time, resulting in gaps, misalignment, and crookedness.'' ''Over ...

Grief can be described as depression an d sadness taken to an extreme. People deal with grief differently. Some people drown their sorrows in food and booze. Some people pretend it never happened. Some people wander around in a daze, the reality of things not quite sunk in. Some people will wallow in their grief endlessly, unless an external force helps them get on their feet again. Sometimes, our grief is caused by our own actions and inaction. We say things in the heat of anger, and by the time we’ve cooled off it is far too late. We can’t turn back time. And, if we let it, Grief it could destroy us. It hurts to lose a loved one. It hurts even more when the last words we ever said to them were harsh. It hurts to think that they died with their final memory of us tainted. Grief is like a never ending rainy day. It’s all grey clouds and melancholy feelings. Sometimes rainy days are nice to reflect and think, and to take time to enjoy being by yourself, but eventually we crave t...

 The 10th of July 2020, time is 10.36pm.  I am having one of them days where everything is just bleak, and I am just sad and moody. I am actually feeling very sick too. I have been checking my phone all day as I am expecting a very important mail or SMS that will determine the next step in my career. So, I believe you can imagine how my heart thumps each time the red light on my phone beeps. I am now tired of checking every email or text message. I decided to get some sleep after all tomorrow will be another day, while lying down I had a flash bulb moment of the real feeling of waiting and expecting. The anxiety, the pressure, the fear, the pain, the feeling of what if? Crazy!! I got up and turned my laptop on and here we are again:  At some point ,we have all been in God's waiting room. Either waiting for the fruit of the womb, waiting for who to marry, waiting for a break through financially, waiting for that big break in your business, waiting for a new job, waiting on...

So, today I read the story of a woman who bought a house in her husband's name. Husband died, and willed the same house to his child born of another woman. You see, this union called marriage is a beautiful thing. The ugly part of marriage comes when you lose yourself in the process. I am not against love, in fact i love LOVE. Who doesn't really? Do not forget that life is a journey and on a journey one  can not and should not lose focus. I have heard so many stories that have kept me dazed for minutes. With the permission of people involved will state a few: A woman gave her husband money to buy a piece of land for the family,the man ended up buying the land in his mother's name. His excuse was they are young and the ''omo -onile" will cheat them. Pray tell, how does age affect buying any property?  I also heard of the woman whose husband had a life insurance. Husband died and while mummy was still mourning and wearing sack clothes the husband's other wife...