FOLA'S HAVEN

Can you fall in love with someone else while married ? Yes,  you can  be  married but  in  love  with other people or find new  love  or a new  person.  That is one of the uncertainties of this life and there is nothing we can do about it. You know that gut wrenching feeling when you realize that you are happily married and have fallen for someone else.  You have probably always prided yourself on the stability of your marriage and are always there to provide a strong shoulder to your friends and now suddenly this person seems to be the center of your life. So is this love? Or infatuation? Or pure lust?  We humans are sometimes as frail and imperfect as the marriage and vows we are bound to. And having feelings for someone else while being married, is that a devilish sin? No, it’s just a human complexity. And unfortunately there is nothing we can do about this. When a marriage functions on routine, boredom starts to ...

AUDACITY OF HOPE: The way Nigeria and even the world is set up right now, a lot of things are on hold due to the pandemic. A lot of business and travel projections that are now almost unachievable and some outrightly in the bin. A few weeks back, I called one of my girls and as we got talking I just started to cry for all the the things I thought by now I would have achieved and moved past but no thanks to the world and it's madness. She allowed me vent and then pointed out all the things that I took for granted  But in the midst of all the chaos, there is always a glimmer of hope.  If you close your mind, you won't see it. It is very human to be fixated on the things that are not working and choosing to ignore the tiny little bits that are. Do not let the world rob you of your joy and peace. Look up, have that audacity to HOPE that all will be well. SEE FINISH : I have a son who has not been back in school since March 2020 when lockdown started.  He is 4 years old and fo...