FOLA'S HAVEN

So, I get nudged to write about relationships. I did a lot of that on my old blog. I wrote about navigating singlehood and living alone in the UK.  It was chaotic. Haha. Love doesn’t always end in betrayal or heartbreak. Sometimes, it ends in an airport terminal, with tight hugs, teary eyes, and a promise we both know we probably won’t keep: “We’ll make this work.” When I got the opportunity to move abroad, it felt like everything I had longed for was finally aligning. New job, new culture, new adventures.  But hidden in the excitement was the slow unraveling of a love I thought could withstand the miles. If wishes were horses..... We tried to prepare. We talked through the hard stuff.   For a while, it worked. Calls during lunch breaks,  surprise gift deliveries across continents. It felt like we were still “us.” *Yinmu* Until we weren’t.  Distance doesn’t just stretch geography. It stretches emotions, conversations, and eventually, patience. The silence b...

 When was the last time you truly paused and told yourself, "I am doing well". Not in a loud, boastful way, but in a quiet, reassuring voice—the kind that sinks into your soul and reminds you that, despite everything, you are making progress. Life moves fast. It often feels like we are racing against unseen deadlines, measuring ourselves against milestones that society has set.  We compare, we criticize, we push ourselves harder—sometimes forgetting that simply surviving, growing, and showing up every day is already a victory. But today, let me remind you: You are doing well. You Are Doing Well, Even If… You are still piecing your life together, one small step at a time. You wake up some mornings feeling unsure, but you get up anyway. You carry silent battles that no one else sees, yet you keep pushing forward. You have taken detours and unexpected pauses, but you’re still on your journey. I used to think that progress had to be loud and visible. That if peo...