FOLA'S HAVEN

Guys, I woke up to a new set of dentition!!! Like, I am not even joking. I was born with  gap tooth, I have lived with that for as long as I've have had teeth. So, this morning, while brushing I noticed my lower teeth now has another gap. Which means I have gap at the top and bottom, this happened over night. I was confused for a minute because I was not sure I was looking at my face. Ran into the room to show the husband, I am sure he was trying very hard not to laugh. He did say it is caused by old age, after a few minutes (very helpful). I spent the last 1 hour on google, trying to figure out what causes a sudden change in dentition . '' adult teeth do and can shift over time, whether or not you had braces as a teenager or child. So yes, teeth move overnight, though the change might be imperceptible at first. Regardless of dental decay or bad habits, our teeth usually shift over time, resulting in gaps, misalignment, and crookedness.'' ''Over ...

Grief can be described as depression an d sadness taken to an extreme. People deal with grief differently. Some people drown their sorrows in food and booze. Some people pretend it never happened. Some people wander around in a daze, the reality of things not quite sunk in. Some people will wallow in their grief endlessly, unless an external force helps them get on their feet again. Sometimes, our grief is caused by our own actions and inaction. We say things in the heat of anger, and by the time we’ve cooled off it is far too late. We can’t turn back time. And, if we let it, Grief it could destroy us. It hurts to lose a loved one. It hurts even more when the last words we ever said to them were harsh. It hurts to think that they died with their final memory of us tainted. Grief is like a never ending rainy day. It’s all grey clouds and melancholy feelings. Sometimes rainy days are nice to reflect and think, and to take time to enjoy being by yourself, but eventually we crave t...

 The 10th of July 2020, time is 10.36pm.  I am having one of them days where everything is just bleak, and I am just sad and moody. I am actually feeling very sick too. I have been checking my phone all day as I am expecting a very important mail or SMS that will determine the next step in my career. So, I believe you can imagine how my heart thumps each time the red light on my phone beeps. I am now tired of checking every email or text message. I decided to get some sleep after all tomorrow will be another day, while lying down I had a flash bulb moment of the real feeling of waiting and expecting. The anxiety, the pressure, the fear, the pain, the feeling of what if? Crazy!! I got up and turned my laptop on and here we are again:  At some point ,we have all been in God's waiting room. Either waiting for the fruit of the womb, waiting for who to marry, waiting for a break through financially, waiting for that big break in your business, waiting for a new job, waiting on...

So, today I read the story of a woman who bought a house in her husband's name. Husband died, and willed the same house to his child born of another woman. You see, this union called marriage is a beautiful thing. The ugly part of marriage comes when you lose yourself in the process. I am not against love, in fact i love LOVE. Who doesn't really? Do not forget that life is a journey and on a journey one  can not and should not lose focus. I have heard so many stories that have kept me dazed for minutes. With the permission of people involved will state a few: A woman gave her husband money to buy a piece of land for the family,the man ended up buying the land in his mother's name. His excuse was they are young and the ''omo -onile" will cheat them. Pray tell, how does age affect buying any property?  I also heard of the woman whose husband had a life insurance. Husband died and while mummy was still mourning and wearing sack clothes the husband's other wife...

On the radio this morning, a topic came up on whether a man who cheats on his wife really loves her? Both sides had valid points. Guys were saying sex outside the marriage is simply a physical thing, a release so to speak, nothing intimate about it, no emotional connection involved, as long as you hide it well, you should be okay. Women were saying that if he truly loved his wife it just wouldn't happen no matter the lust he felt, or the temptation thrown his way, for him to cheat mean s he really didn't care. My opinion is, yes, a man can love his wife yet get pleased sexually elsewhere besides home. Love isn't the problem here, respect is. I feel that once you decide to propose and get married, you should understand the responsibilities that come along with that, especially fighting temptation. You CHOSE to take your relationship to the next level, she said yes, with full faith and trust in you . M ost women do take those vows seriously. Again, what exactly do you co...