FOLA'S HAVEN

 2020 is rounding off and boy, we are happy!! I have read a lot of ''do you think the troubles of the world will go away with 2020'' posts.  I choose not to dwell on evil thoughts. I choose happiness.  But my believe is whatever you desire comes to you. If you believe 2021 will hold you down somehow, it may just happen. I didn't get all I wished for in 2020...but I got major wins which I could not have done without the grace of the omniscient.  2020 was/is more of win some and lose some but overall, do not lose your faith. But you know what, count your blessings of 2020. Name them one by one, you will be amazed at the things you took for granted. 2021 will be awesome. 2021 will bring good tidings. 2021 will see me blog more 😊 2021 all our dreams and expectations will manifest. And that is if you believe. CHEERS TO A NEW YEAR. NB: If I could hug each and every one of you who reads my rants and drop a comment .....         Thank you guys!! Thank Yo...

 Today marks another anniversary of my brother's transition to glory. It's been 28 years since he left, but the memories.... It is just like the event happened yesterday, I can still vividly remember everything that transpired. This brings me to the core of human existence. Family, love, attachment, loss etc. Do we really forget the ones we have lost? Now, I am not even about the ones we lost to death only. How about relationships that somehow did not work out? How about marriages that crashed because of one thing or another? How about friendships that fizzled out?  Do we really forget people we were once ''in love'' with? I strongly believe we won't forget people we loved genuinely, love borne out of sincerity. Even when they die or things do not work out as planned, time helps to ease up the feelings and clean up our thoughts. Most times when a loved one passes, we end up carrying the feelings with us in different forms.  It is very hard to forget someone ...

 I have read a lot and seen so many blood curling videos of men abusing women physically in the last two days.  There was a particular one where the man smacked his wife with an iron. How on earth do you look at the mother of your kids and just want to kill her? He banged her head on the wall a few times, I didn't realize I screamed till my son said mummy are you Ok? The cycle of abuse is long and deep. It starts with a push here and a shove there. Then it graduates into slaps (to reset the brain of the wife as the monsters say). And since the person being abused is still there it moves into proper beating. Now, I have spoken to quite a number of people on this issue and the usual response is ''oh he was really upset, that's why he slapped me". He won't do it again.  Let me tell you, he will do it again and again. This is the same way I lie to myself after working out for 45 minutes and I drink a bottle of chilled Pepsi afterwards. This won't happen again I...

 I asked myself this morning, in 42 years what are you grateful for:  1. I am grateful for good health. 2. I am grateful for a very sound mind. 3. I am grateful for my children.  4. I am grateful that I know God and He loves me unconditionally. 5. I am grateful for my siblings...we fight and bicker but won't trade them for anything. 6. I am grateful for the ones in my corner. The friends who are always quick to lift me up when down. 7. I am grateful for a praying mother. Sometimes, when I am too tired to pray I rest knowing she will be praying for me and for us. I am grateful for my mother in love who never stops sending me money.  8. I am grateful for the people I work with, associating with them has taught me a lot of lessons on life      and  human relationship. 9. I am grateful for the anointing and unction of my Pastor. His teachings in the last 7 years....grateful. 10. I am grateful for cousins, they are my bloodline. My everything. You guys...