FOLA'S HAVEN

I was having a good day at work, it was also my younger sister's birthday. I had just finished uploading her pictures on my whatsapp status, grinning and smiling from all the pings coming from viewers. Then my phone rang, it was Wunmi at the other end of the line. Wunmi: Our friend's  husband passed last night. Me: What is pass? Passed exam? Passed to where? There and then I understood the meaning of time stopping. I could not believe what I just heard. Is this how people die? He was not ill. I speak with my friend at least once every week or 2 weeks. If he was ill she would have mentioned. How do I console a woman who will never see her husband again? How do I say sorry to a woman whose life just changed forever? Is this what people mean by ''it is well''? Because, somehow it has to be well. RIP oko ore mi . All will be well.

I saw this ↑↑ on my friend's whatsapp story .  So, the saying goes " Train up your child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will not depart from it". Oh yeah, that can be found in the Bible in Proverbs 22:6. But here, I am talking about the way of the world, the world we are in now,  Century where no child should be deem superior to another. The century where the husband or the wife can be the breadwinner/homemaker.  Most children brought up in my parents time were made to believe that boys should not be domesticated. How dare you make a boy wash plates, or sweep not to talk of the sacrilegious act known as cooking. In those days, the Nigerian parenting style is the authoritarian way...our way or no other way. Girls must learn how to take care of their family, hence the "training". That era ended up churning out men who see house chores as punishment, degrading and beneath them. Men who believed that bringing  money is the only cont...

Whether you believed that a decade ended last year or not...it does not really matter anyway 2020 is a new year and thus a new beginning. We all had dreams and aspirations for 2019, some we were able to achieve and some we were not able to. It is ok to feel sad, but hey you have to pick yourself up and try again. Life has taught me that some times it gets really dark, tiring and one gets more weary just at the hedge of a breakthrough. So, send that CV again, reapply for that opportunity, shoot your shot one more time.The opportunity may just come this time around. YOU are all the motivation you need in 2020. If you live in Nigeria, I am sure you know our health care system is like smoking near a keg of gun powder....oja le burst anytime. Please take your health seriously, eat and drink responsibly. Sometimes, your money may not save you as a Nigerian living in Nigeria. If you have a cardiac arrest in your home, what if you can't get to hospital because of traffic gridlock. W...